What’s the best relationship advice you can give someone?
In our daily life, we encounter people who don’t fit me. And sometimes it causes us a lot of emotional exhaustion and stress.
If you understand the cause of the conflict and let it go, you can be more detached from your emotions and can see the situation more objectively.
So basically why do we conflict with others?
Because I have the same mind as that person.
Someone might say, “How can I be the same as that person? it’s ridiculous.”
The reason is that the trigger point of that person’s behaviour is start from your mind.
If there is no reason to conflict in one’s mind, there is no conflict.
The cause is not from the outside, but the inside.
Let’s me share my story briefly,
I had a friend that I didn’t like. The thing that I feel uncomfortable about her was she only care and think about her stuff or things to study. Whenever I saw her behavior, I thought she is really selfish.
By chance, I started meditation, and it changed how I see the world and myself. I could see myself objectively.
As I look at myself, I recognized that I was also the same as her. I only think about myself, my stuff, my studies, my time, etc…
I had a mind of selfishness in me, so I reacted to her behavior. Now when I felt strong feelings from others, I know I had that mind in me strongly.
My whole life, I thought I was right.
As I looked back, I realized I might have been a villain to someone else.
When you reflect and discard the mind, you can reduce emotional exhaustion and can improve yourself rapidly, while the one who blames others remains filled with hatred and stress.
Briefly, try to recall the person who you hate. Someone might be a friend, co-worker, or family member. You are the only one who stresses when you live with a hater such as this.
If you can let go of the emotions you have now, it’ll be great. right?
It is possible to let go of the mind.
For your happiness, let’s take some time to clear our minds. If you want to learn more about how to clear your mind please refer to below.🌱