What do you do when you feel sad?
When I’m sad, I do these four things.
You can temporarily forget about sadness with numbers 1, 2, and 3, but number 4 will get you out of it. Here’s what happened to me.
One day my son’s homeroom teacher, me, and his special education teacher got together and talked about my son’s subject. Three people, including me, talked about how to provide my son with the best education possible. In the classroom, the homeroom teacher recorded a video and showed it to me so I could see how difficult it was to adjust to school life for my son. I was shocked. When my underage son was filmed with a smartphone without my permission, I was upset. On the teacher’s phone, he looked helpless and inferior.
I complained to the school and the Office of Education right away. His homeroom teacher acted unfairly, so I protested and asked that they fix it. The school and the education office apologized to me, and so did the homeroom teacher. When I asked for forgiveness, she said it was because she was ignorant.
My first emotion was anger.
Then there was deep sadness. I felt bad for my son, who hadn’t realized he was being filmed. But I also felt bad for him, because he didn’t adjust to school life.
I cried a lot after calling the school and district office to protest. My whole body felt weak, and I felt dizzy. So I slept. After that, I told my husband and a close friend everything about her. No matter how much I took a walk in the neighborhood, the feelings of sadness and anger were only temporarily forgotten, but not gone.
When I meditate, I remember what happened two years ago. Let go of anger, and sadness from then. Think from the teacher’s perspective first. ‘Did she use that method, filming, to help my son?’
‘Did she think I was a parent who doesn’t care about my kid?’
I couldn’t understand her at all.
Even while doing housework, talking face to face with my son, or seeing someone who looked like that teacher on the street, I would go back to the moment of protesting at school.
I meditate every day, though. Even a few days ago, I was thinking of things from the past I wanted to delete. That’s when it hit me. To admit that my thoughts, judgments, and positions were 100% wrong and fake took me a minute. As long as you have the ‘I’ in your head, you can’t understand others. There’s no way I can understand why the teacher acted like that. Because I am not her. She wouldn’t have understood me or my son.
We all live in our own worlds. The world does not really exist, but we believe that the mind world does exist. But it doesn’t exist in this world.
As a result, I got rid of my sadness and anger. I realized I was wrong. Since my mind and feelings are fake, I could discard them. This meditation helps me deal with emotions like sadness or hatred. When I had a row with someone, I couldn’t understand them. But I know my perspective is wrong.
When you’re sad, you can cry, sleep, walk, or do something else. If you want to get over sadness, meditate. Meditation is a permanent fix.