Let me share a short story.
Last Friday at 4.30 pm I received an email from my colleague who sits next to me.
I was tired and my hot head was filled with negative thoughts.
I read his email about the project we are working on.
In the email, I thought I read the words “I disagree with you…”.
I couldn’t believe it!
I was his senior and it was my job to review his work.
Even though he was sitting right next to me, I didn’t talk to him about it.
On my drive home, I was thinking… how could he say he disagrees!
I have much more experience than him, I thought.
On Saturday, I was still thinking about it.
I went to my meditation center and meditated on Saturday and Sunday.
I began to see how strong my ego is.
I looked at my mind and admitted to myself that I have a strong frame of mind. I really don’t want to be defeated.
On my drive to work on Monday, I told myself I would not insist on my own opinion (however, I still thought I was right).
Feeling much fresher after meditation, I read the email again.
“I disagree with the customer…”.
My colleague was not disagreeing with me!
He was disagreeing with someone else.
I was shocked.
I was not the victim and the email itself did not have any of the anger I thought it had.
My stressed mind had interpreted his email as an attack against me.
I decided to focus on my own work.
My colleague sat calmly next to me.
It was as if nothing ever happened.
The reason I share this is to highlight to you that victim mentality exists in the mind.
It doesn’t exist outside, in the world.
Only inside my mind.
Because I have lived my life with this victim mindset, I automatically respond and think in this way.
So, to overcome it, I recommend a method where you can remove the experiences that have caused the victim mindset to build up.
You will then find freedom in your mind 😊
Please enjoy the video that helps explain it.